Drive My Car: parents' guide
Best for ages 16 and up. Not formally rated.
A three-hour, slow, literary Japanese drama for mature older teens and adults, built on long conversations about grief and art. A stage director, still haunted by his wife's sudden death and the earlier loss of their small daughter, forms a bond with the reserved young woman assigned to drive him. It was released unrated, but the first act includes several sex scenes with thrusting, rear and breast nudity, and frank talk about infidelity and masturbation. Violence is minimal, and the worst of it, including an attempted rape in a story one character tells, is described rather than shown. The sex content and heavy themes point to about 16.
What's in it
Violence
MildLittle on screen: a minor car crash, a shirt grab in a bar, and a pistol fired in a play rehearsal. A fatal beating happens offscreen. A story told aloud describes a girl fighting off an attempted rape by stabbing the man to death with a pen.
Language
MildAlmost none in the subtitles: Plugged In found only two uses of 'damn,' both in lines from the play being staged. The talk about sex is frank but not crude.
Sex and nudity
StrongSeveral first-act sex scenes show thrusting and an orgasm, with rear and brief breast nudity. Most are between the married couple, but the husband also sees his wife having sex with another man. Her affairs and stories involving masturbation are discussed frankly.
Drinking, drugs and smoking
ModerateThe driver and others smoke cigarettes, and characters drink whiskey and beer in bars. No drunkenness or drug use is noted.
Scary or intense scenes
ModerateThe wife dies suddenly of a brain hemorrhage early on, and her husband finds her body. Grief runs throughout. Characters recall a child's death from pneumonia, a mother killed in a landslide and childhood abuse; lines from the staged play touch on suicide.
Sensitive topics
- Death of a child
- Death of a parent
- Child abuse
Worth talking about
Both leads blame themselves for losses they could not prevent. Talk about guilt in grief, and why saying painful things out loud can help people heal.
On our lists
Similar picks around 16+
Checked October 13th, 2026 against Common Sense Media, bbfc.co.uk, the MPA, Plugged In, en.wikiquote.org. The age is our judgment, not an official rating, and every family draws its lines differently: read the notes, not just the number. Spotted something we missed? Tell us. How we rate.